Researchers asked 51 people to complete two exercises that measured their ability to identify and craft lies in social situations. The results? Being a good liar gave people about a 20 percent boost in being able to detect the lies of others, says study author Geoffrey Bird, PhD, a psychologist at the University of London. In other words, it really does seem to take one to know one when it comes to fibbers. That’s good news for the BS-inclined, but what about the more honest among us? Here are five signs to look out for to keep from getting duped:
- Inconsistent behavior Watch for sudden changes in gestures or speech patterns, says behavioral psychologist Marc Salem, PhD, author of Mind Games. If a typical slow talker suddenly becomes speedy, that’s a red flag.
- A too-steady gaze It’s natural for a person to break eye contact when thinking or listening intently. What’s not natural? When a person’s gaze is too constant, which means they’re either not paying attention—or deliberately trying to earn your trust. Both are signs of insincerity, Dr. Salem says. Does Everybody Lie?
- Written tells An easy way to tell if that Match.com profile is too good to be true: Avoiding first-person pronouns—words like “I” or “my”—probably means Mr. Too-Good-To-Be-True is trying to distance himself from his untruths, says Catalina Toma, PhD, a communication science professor at the University of Wisconsin who researches dishonesty in online profiles. Short sentences lacking any elaboration are another sign of dishonesty, she says.
- Mouth muffling Coughing, clearing the throat frequently, or any other gesture that involves covering the mouth can indicate a person is trying to hide something, says Dr. Salem.
- A quick smile When a someone smiles genuinely, her eyes light up and her cheeks and eyebrows rise along with the corners of her mouth, says Dr. Salem. Real delight also takes a few seconds to fade. A fake smile, on the other hand, appears in an instant, and disappears just as quickly. Also see: Confessions Of A Food Sneak, How To Read People, When It’s Okay To Lie To Your Kids